Hi,
I am of similar height and build. I wiegh about 195 at the same
height as you. I got back into biking this past year and had the same
issues. After deciding what price range I started riding different
bikes. I must tell you I was impressed by the steel frames out there
but I tried all but the TI. I ended up with a Specialized Roubaix 58cm
combo aluminum and carbon frame. The model I bought has the 105 package
and I am very happy with it. I have upgraded the saddle to a firmer
Body Geometry with the cutout. The stock seat had too much flex and I
was bouncing a bit too much. If price was no object I would opt for the
all carbon version of the Roubaix. I test road one and it was so stiff
but compliant over the bumps. I hope this helps and if you check your
local bike shop you should be able to find a leftover carbon in your
price range. I spent $1400 for the one I bought.